Toxic People

Funny how the people that know very little about you have the most to say

People talk. People observe. It is part of human nature. We are constantly analyzing one another, staring each other up and down, and figuring out who our competition is. This is normal behavior, because we were designed to compete against one another, and the best way to win is to figure out how to beat your rivalry. There is nothing wrong with wanting to compete, but there is something wrong with tearing each other apart. It is harmful, demeaning and flat out mean.

Normally the people want that to play the role of the tiger aka the one that wishes to tear others down with their claws in order to bestow their anger upon them are the ones that lack self-love, or they envy their prey. These are the types of people that enjoy saying ridiculous remarks about the people they know absolutely nothing about. They try to pick them apart in hopes of building themselves up and usually it is because of jealousy. 

I cannot stand these types of people and whenever I come across one I try to find the nearest exit sign to get away from them. They are deceitful, angry and miserable. They will never find true happiness and will only try to drag you down with them, you cannot save them, let them fall into their own holes and dont be the hand to help them out. They never learn. You cannot save anyone, only we can save ourselves. 

With that being said if I ever meet anyone and my radar signal goes off I never talk to them again. I will drop them just like that and will not even blink an eye, I choose to surround myself with happy, secure, genuine people not toxic, miserable assholes. 

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Insecure People Finish LAST!

If you do not love yourself how the hell is anyone else supposed to love you? If you do not believe in your own ideas how the hell is anyone else supposed to? If you doubt your own beauty others will find you ugly. That last one is a bit exaggerated but you get the idea? Right?

Everyone in the world is insecure about something. Everyone. There are no exceptions. The people you see as “perfect” look in the mirror and see something they dislike about their own reflection. Intelligent people find themselves questioning their own minds, and the overachievers often believe their lives did not turn out according to their plan. We all have insecurities where as others are insecure. If you are insecure you finish last.

You think someone like Steve Jobs was insecure? He created a company from inside of his home. He quit college. He came from a working class family that could not afford to put him through college, and he was adopted. Jobs believed in himself, he was passionate about his work therefore others believed in him. Confidence sells a product long before it can sell itself. 

Lucille Ball was one of the first women to find success in comedy. She was also the first woman to own a production company. She had to create I Love Lucy, because in the 1950s networks believed America would never accept a biracial couple into their homes. Lucy said “okay fine”, I will make my own television show. I Love Lucy became the first syndicated show in American history. You think she suffered from insecurity? She may have doubted herself for a second but at the end of the day she knew she would succeed, and that is why she did.  

Lets talk about you. Me? Yeah, YOU! The one reading this blog..if you do not have self love nobody else will love you. Insecure women attract assholes, because they pry on their lack of self-esteem. A confident woman scares this type of male (or female), therefore they are less likely to date them. If you want a great significant other you must first find the greatness in yourself. If you want to become the best at your career you must believe you are the best. Insecure people finish last and will get run over by those that lack self doubt.

OMG I Am Officially A GLEEK!

I have to be honest here, before I could not get myself to sit and watch an episode of the FOX hit show Glee, because to me it looked like a bunch of drama kids that annoyed me in high school bopping around to Britney Spears songs, and sabotaging classic bands like Journey. The other night I decided to give the show a chance and watched two episodes on Netflix, I now understand the obsession teenagers have with this show. Ryan Murphy is a genius, the show tackles sensitive topics such as homosexuality, teen pregnancy, and bullying. It does this by entertaining you, rather than lecturing you, making you feel like you are in a Psychology course. 

The cast is also VERY diverse in terms of looks, race, and personality. There is a character you can relate to, for me its Santana, like me is rather sarcastic, snippy, however beneath that lays a heart of gold. The first episode I watched was the one in which they performed Born This Way, it was about loving yourself, and embracing your flaws, because our flaws are part of what makes us unique. In the beginning of the episode, Rachel is knocked in the face by Finn causing her to suffer a broken nose, the doctor tells her she should consider getting a nose job, if she wants to succeed as an actress. The members of the Glee club tell her that is a stupid idea, after she shows them a photograph of what she would look like with a better nose, they explain to her how it does not even look like her! At the end of the episode the cast sings Born This Way, wearing t-shirts with a word or phrase with the one thing they are embarrassed about. I love the message this episode is conveying, love yourself, have self love and embrace what is different about yourself, even if it is deemed “ugly” according to societies standards. 

I think Ryan Murphy is a very talented individual, and is sending wonderful messages to our youth. Remember you were born this way baby!

 

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Mean Girls & Mean Boys

Growing up I was often victimized by the mean girls, and boys at school. I was awkward, incredibly bright, and without a doubt an ugly duckling. Throughout my adolescence I experienced peers calling me everything from ugly, to scrutinizing the size of my nose, and only wanting to befriend me, because I was intelligent. I used to be extremely insecure, I used to despise my own reflection, and wanted the popular kids to like me. I remember I let guys say some messed up shit to me when I was a teenager, because I did not like myself! Ugh. As an adult, I would tell these losers off so fast it would make their head spin! I can honestly say, I LOVE MYSELF. It took a while, but you know what? I am the pick of the litter, and so are most women, they just need to learn to see it with their own two eyes. The majority of mean girls and boys do not go anywhere in life. They get fat, and live mediocre lives. You know Tom Hanks was a weirdo in high school? You know Stephen Speilberg was made fun of in high school because he was odd, and creative? Kesha was poked fun at because she was “fat”, and when she told her peers I am going to be a rock star, they laughed. Kurt Cobain was also bullied because he was so thin. Brilliant people are usually punched down a couple of times, because the mean girls and boys are too dumb to comprehend their minds. If you are currently a target for these dip shits, remember one thing, those bullies are targeting you because there is something you have that they dont. Don’t let them get to you, and if someone is putting you down give it right back to them, you watch how fast they shut up once the tables are turned.