Ah, Yes, We Don’t Want to Hear it

“There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.”- J.K. Rowling

Our parents helped mold who we are. They taught us the basics about life, helped build our characters and lifted our spirits when we were down. They helped teach us right from wrong, and attempted to guide us onto a path that would hopefully lead us to some wonderful destination. That is how they are supposed to be, but some people do not get that lucky, and they are victims of horrible parenting, which does indeed fuck them up. Bad parenting can turn innocent children into adults who constantly make bad decisions causing them to feel helpless. 

My parents are utterly insane, but they are not bad, and throughout my life, both of them have been present. Sometimes their views about certain issues are backwards and old school, but nobody is perfect. I have my own mind. 

Over the years, I have witnessed the negative effects of bad parenting. It makes them date horrible people, and many suffer from low self esteem. This sucks, but I can only empathize for I cannot truly relate to them because I am not a victim of bad parenting. I can say this though, and do not see me as being insensitive or unkind, but there is a deadline for blaming your past for your present and future fuck ups. After a while, fucking up becomes a choice you choose to make. Healing is not easy, but it can be done. 

(Sorry this is a bit off track, but it has a good pt)

When I was a Freshmen in college, I was placed on academic probation because my GPA had fallen below 2.0. When I was sitting in the counselors office, my 18 year old self thought I could totally bullshit this highly educated woman who has about 15 years on me. I attempted to blame my GPA on someone else, but she said “oh no, you did this to YOU”, and this was one of those moments that got  mind videotaped and stored on the brain’s shelf. 

Part of growing up is learning how to own up to what we do wrong and not do it again. It is accepting that we are human and fuck up, but having the ability to discontinue doing what we did that caused the fuck up.

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Let’s Bring More Sex Into America’s Education System

In America the majority of public schools require students to attend class until the age of 16, this is when they are given the opportunity to drop out of high school. Those that earn their high school diploma spent nearly thirteen years getting “educated”, learning how to read, write, basic math, and may have participated in extracurricular activities such as sports. What our education system fails to do is educate our youth on vital subjects that need to be addressed. We do not teach our youth how to master a job interview, how to manage their money, how to think outside of the box, and challenge others. The biggest thing many public schools fail to provide its students is Sex Education. Let’s bring more sex into our public schools.

Parents wake up, and smell the coffee. Whether you like it or not your teenager is probably having sex, thinking about doing it, or beginning to experiment with sexual activities. I know you are dreading the moment where you are forced to discuss the topic that is still considered taboo among many Americans, but the truth is it is very important to your child’s well being. Sex is healthy, sex is normal, and its fun. Which is why your teenager is thinking about doing it or already has done it. 

I strongly believe that ALL public schools in the United States should require students to take, and pass a Sex Education course beginning in the eighth grade. I believe they should be required to take one every single year until they graduate high school. These courses should educate students on: different contraceptive methods, economics, and the cost of raising a child, sexually transmitted diseases, and how to raise a child with a learning disability. You make not feel like the last one has anything to do with Sex Education, however I feel like people do not think about these things. Raising a handicapped child, or one with a disability is tough, they need extra love, and care. If a couple is financially struggling, that child could suffer twice as much.

When I was in eight grade, the class was required to participate in a program called T.A.S.K., I honestly cannot even fathom what it stood for. I clearly remember a young girl lecturing us about how sex is a gift, and you should share it with someone you truly love, your husband/wife. All they did was shove the idea that sex should wait until marriage down our throats. There was a significant amount of students already having sex, they sat in the back of the classroom rolling their eyes. It was lame, than again the city I lived in was ran by Mormons. I do not have anything against the Mormon community, however I think many of them are in lala land, and do not comprehend the idea that most of us do not want to be married by the age of 18, have six children, and smile like we are in a tooth paste commercial all day long. 

Here is a quote from a CBS News Article

“STIs take a big health and economic toll on men and women in the United States, especially our youth,” CDC epidemiologist Dr. Catherine Lindsey Satterwhite, who led one of the studies, told NBC News”

In Massachusetts, there is a school district trying to get a stronger sex education program into its schools, both inside and outside of their education system. They have a high teen pregnancy, therefore they believe strengthening their sex education will help to decrease this issue.

In conclusion, teenagers are going to have sex whether their parents approve of it or not. Why not educate our youth on proper contraceptive methods, the difficulties of being a parent, and the cost! 

Here are links to the articles 

http://www.wamc.org/post/berkshire-county-school-district-seeks-strengthen-sex-ed-programs

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-204_162-57569429/cdc-110-million-stds-among-u.s-men-and-women/

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Let’s Point That Finger Again

That adorable, angelic, precious baby you once held in your arms, because it was crying has now transformed into a rebellious, music blasting teenager. A teenager that wants nothing to do with you. A person that is smoking pot, having sex, and prancing around in clothing you do not approve of.

What went wrong? Who the hell is that monster in your kitchen? You read every psychology book there was ever written on how to raise the “perfect” child, you surrounded your child with responsible, educated adults, and provided them with a stable home. That deviant monster could not be a result of how you raised it. You are the epitome of human perfection. You did everything right. Their outrageous behavior must be a result of something else-hmmmm I think I know what that something is. Kim Kardashian, Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, these girls are complete whores, and your child is infatuated by them. They must be the reason why your child is acting out.

This may sound lame, but the reality is people often blame entertainment for their childs poor behavior. Come on get real. Kim Kardashian is not raising your child, YOU ARE! If parents did something called parent their children would not go inside of the cocoon and turn into a monster. Does the media have some effect on our society?? Of course it does. Children, especially girls are effected by what magazines and television project to them. That magic little box in your living room can decide what is pretty what is ugly, why you need the newest version of the car you are driving, why your not thin enough- the list can go on, however if parents stopped pointing the finger at that little box or at celebrities they could possibly face the fact that their childrens behavior is due to their lack of parenting! EVERY teenager will be exposed to drugs, and sex. How they handle the situation all depends upon how they were raised. Do their peers influence them? Yes, but they have a minimal amount of influence if they were raised by strong parents.

There are many single parents, and parents that have to work long hours in order to provide for their children. I empathize with you, and give you a significant amount of credit. It must be difficult trying to raise children, and maintaining a job. I give you all a big high five, because it is well deserved. This does not excuse you from being a bad parent, you still have to spend time with your child, and do this thing called discipline them when they misbehave. It is also up to you to explain what is right and what is wrong to your child, you instill their morals and values not entertainment.

Entertainment is a business, it is about making money. In the 1950’s America was exposed to darling, perfect upper middle class, white families like the Cleavers. Daddy went to work, while the mother cleaned all day, and still managed to look like she was going to compete in a Miss. America pageant. She was so happy, and delighted to spend her days dusting and cooking apple pies. This is what we loved to see. In 2013, we are addicted to trash television. Why? It is entertaining! It is NOT real life, it is fabricated, exaggerated and funny. I highly doubt Paris Hilton is a complete moron, same with Kim Kardashian. Society puts these women down, because of jealousy. Who wouldnt want to get $30,000 just to send out a damn tweet! Who wouldnt want to be filthy rich, for having zero talent? I do not think these women are great role models, but I also believe nobody in the entertainment industry is a healthy role model.

If parents spent time with their children, and actually parented how much cocaine Lindsay Lohan shoves up her nose would not matter. Kim Kardashian’s need for attention, and the tape of her getting pounded by Ray J would not matter. KIMMMMY