Dear Women, It’s You.!?!

Dear Women,

Stop blaming men for your body image issues.

Of course some men are shallow and gave into this notion that if a woman does not meet certain physical requirements, she is deemed undateable, but at the end of the day I truly believe this is a small percentage of the male population.

MOST men like ALL types of women. The reason being is because there are ALL types of men! We date people we have stuff in common with. We date people we find relatable. We date people we find sexually attractive, and if a guy only fucks girls that measure up to the women he sees on the cover of magazines, he will soon find out that the only sexual contact he will be getting will be from his hands.

So, hey women.

Stop blaming men for your own self deprecation, did you know the Editor in Chief of Vogue magazine is Anna Wintour? AKA a woman. Did you know for about a decade the CEO of Victoria’s Secret was Sharen Jester Turney..AKA a woman? The list can go on but you kinda, sorta, maybe, perhaps, get my point?

I think women are harsher on other women.

I still hear women make comments like “Well her nose is big, she is fat, I’m prettier, she’s not cute, she’s dumb, she’s okay looking, she’s a bitch, he only likes her because her tits are big, she’s a slut, her hair is ugly, her eyes are too big, her nostrils suck, her calves are too muscular……….”

Blah, Blah, Blah

I believe these types of females are easily intimidated and make such remarks to make their “apparent enemy” feel less about themselves, because an insecure women is a whole lot less threatening than a confident one.

I have a lot of male friends, and I honestly don’t hear them bashing women nearly as badly as other women. Of course they may say stuff like “She’s a slut, or she’s fat”, which isn’t nice but thats as far as it goes! They don’t go into detail about what exactly is wrong with their body, or face, etc they just basically say she’s unattractive!

Hey, women.

Be nicer to each other. You need each other.

xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Jaclyn

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The Truth About Curves

I am on my way out right now, because I have a date with SLEEP, but I wanted to get this quick post up, because it is always a hot topic, and that is “body image”, and the subject of curves. Below are women I consider to be “curvy”

(USMagazine)

(JustJared)

A curvy woman is at a healthy weight with a good hip to waist ratio, but these days it seems as if people are using the term as a nice way to describe a woman that is “overweight”, and this pisses me off! Both of these women are FAR from being overweight, and I would take JLO’s figure over a Victoria Secret models body any day of the week (no offense to them as they are all beautiful too) I am just all about that bass :). 

America has an obesity problem, and while we should not “fat shame”, or scorn anyone for their weight, because that is plain mean, and only makes the problem even worse, we should not be calling women who are unhealthy “curvy”, because I personally think it sends a negative message. I do think it is important for society to embrace all different shapes, and sizes, because we all do not look the same and if we did how fucking boring would the world be? We need to make sure we promote health, and being a good weight for our height/body frame, not sugarcoating a health problem with “curvy”!!!!

Apple Cider Vinegar Review

So, I decided to try this apple cider vinegar cleanse, because of one of my favorite beauty gurus (Makeup by Mel). Surprisingly,it is incredibly delicious and calorie free! I love to add sugar to my tea to make it flavorful, but the lemon juice and apple cider vinegar make the tea refreshing and amazing. I am going to drink it in the morning before work and in the evening after I go to the gym, and will post a review about it! TRY IT people, it is good! Here is the recipe: 

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What Women Want

For the most part, the majority of heterosexual men are often baffled, and confused by the opposite gender known as women. They cannot seem to grasp the concept of what “women” want, and I think trying to figure this out only sets them up for failure. What do I mean by this? The keyword there is “women”, and it is too generic, because what woman wants another could live without, we are all designed differently therefore we have different wants, and this is an important attribute to making the world go around. 

I will describe to you what I want, and the characteristics the man I will end up with in the end MUST have, no exceptions. I need an intelligent man who is opinionated and supports his arguments with valid facts. Someone who is determined to be successful in his career, a hard worker, a creative thinker and will keep me on my toes. A man that respects me and other women, and words like “slut” are not in his vocabulary. His religious beliefs cannot define who he is. He has to enjoy taking care of his body and eating well. And last but not least he must be loyal.

Now there are women out there that would disagree with me, and that is okay. There are women that do not care about a man’s weight or do not mind it if their man cheats, because they financially support them. Some women would refer to me as “shallow”, or a bitch and I honestly do not care. These characteristics are incredibly important to me, and I do not feel as if I am asking for much. I have a college degree, a job, work out 4 times a week to remain a healthy weight and have aspirations of owning an online business. I believe I am quite the catch and I do not care if that makes me seem conceded or full of myself. Confidence is sexy and powerful go get some!

Trying to figure out the female mind, and picking it apart will not get men anywhere, because not all women are the same. Not all women are attracted to the same type of men, and we all come from different backgrounds, and plenty of psychological studies have supported the claim that we are destined to be captivated by men who are like our fathers. If your father cheated on your mother, you are more likely to be drawn to men that are players, because that is what you were exposed to growing up. It is a tough cycle to break, because we are significantly influenced by our surroundings growing up. 

If you are a heterosexual male trying to learn about what women want, stop now. Instead learn about what the WOMAN you are dating, or would like to date wants. What are her life goals? Does she have high career goals? Does she have the desire to be a mother? What is her sense of style in terms of clothing? Does she want to get married? What does she prefer sexually?

The last one is a biggie, because in general (at least in the USA) women are still encouraged to be hush, hush about their sexuality, where as it is still okay for men to be boisterous about it. Sex is a vital part of a relationship, and it can destroy it if the two lovers are not communicating about what they desire. Again, not all women have the same sexual desires, so figure out what YOUR woman wants, who gives a shit about what WOMEN want.

If you are interested in a particular woman, her hobbies, and her job are two important keys to determining her wants and desires. If she is in shape, chances are she wants a man that is also fit. If she comes from a middle class home chances are she wants a man with a decent job. If she is very religious more than likely she does not want to be in a relationship with an atheist.

Those are my thoughts for the day, what are yours? Comments are always appreciated! 

Your FAT!

You know that three letter word people often get their panties in a bunch about? NO, I am NOT referring to sex. I am talking about fat. Women around the globe are constantly on a diet, because they look in the mirror and see a fat girl. Do not get me wrong, obesity is a growing epidemic and can perpetuate a number of health problems. The keyword there is health, and the majority of women are not diets for health purposes, their primary motivation is to look better.

This is where the problem arises. I think all women should remove the term FAT from their vocabulary. Never resort to labeling yourself such a repulsive term, because it will only fuel your insecurities. Instead face the problem, and come to terms with the fact that you are over weight and need to shed some pounds. You are still sexy and worthy of people’s respect. Nobody should discriminate against you, or make you feel inferior because of a number on a scale. 

Look in the mirror and pick out what you like about yourself. Then decide upon what you would like to change, and figure out a POSITIVE way to do it. Do not starve yourself, go on some bizarre, wacky, stupid ass diet or attempt to conquer a difficult exercise regime when you can barely do 15 minutes walking on the tread mill. 

You will never look like any other woman, EVER. You are one of a kind; there are no replicas. Isn’t that awesome? Why would you want to look like another woman, when you are amazing? You will never be perfect, because that just does not exist. 

You are already sexy, you only want to lose weight to improve your health, it is not all about appearance. Beauty fades. 

What are your thoughts!

America’s Corrupt Education System

Many students would rather be playing video games, participating in extracurricular activities or watching television than going to that dreadful place known as school. Why do we think this is? Well for starters in most states it is required for students to attend school up until the age of 16, at this tender age they can make the decision to not come back. It is often shoved down their throats by educators how important our education is, how it is the key to a successful adulthood, yet many successful entrepreneurs became college drop-outs. This is something our education system likes to keep discrete, because if students begin to figure out the system is biased they may not spend thousands of dollars to receive a fancy piece of paper with their name on it. 

For one thing all Americans were not created equally, those growing up in lower income neighborhoods do not receive the same education as those growing up in more affluent homes. The turn over rate for teachers in impoverished school districts is much higher than those of more upper middle class, and wealthy. This provides the wealthier with a more stable environment, imagine those students that frequently have substitute teachers, you think they are taught as well as those that do not? What about the text books, the equipment, the buildings, wealthier neighborhoods are able to obtain higher funding, granting them better computers, nicer buildings, desks, and supplies.

Educators always focus on test grades, can a student memorize a bunch of bullshit and circle a few bubbles in to get the correct answer. Just because a student can do this does not mean they have good teachers, nor does it display a sense of intelligence. I hate how everything revolves around numbers, and tests, lets teach students how to discuss what they are learning through conversations. Let them embrace their inner weirdo, and allow them to have more creative freedom for class assignments. Let the students choose the majority of their classes when they get into high school, economic classes should be provided to students, one in which gives them fake money, a fake job, and a fake salary, than a mortgage, phone bill, etc to show them how expensive the cost of living is especially when you are earning a low salary. Sex education should be in every public school across the country, it should provide students with FREE contraception, a look into how expensive it is to raise a child, and the risk of contracting an STD. I also believe better business classes should be offered, lets teach our kids how they can form their own businesses, social media classes should be offered, in today’s world so many people are having success because of social media. Nutrition classes should be provided, obesity is a growing epidemic in America, lets educate our youth on what is healthy, and unhealthy for their bodies. All in all I believe we need to make school more interactive, and teachers should want to educate not just go and collect a paycheck because their careers are extremely important to our youth.

 

A Girls Guide To Guys On Getting Laid

I think MOST  straight men would agree that sometimes they have difficulties with the opposite sex, that is getting the opposite sex to have sex with them. Wow so many sexes in one terrible sentence. Below are some tips on how to get “laid”.

1. I do not care about what Hollywood tries to shove down our throats, there is a league zone and people typically date & fuck those that are within their attractiveness range. You will rarely see a 5 with a 10, it just doesnt work that way, we are genetically designed to mate with the best looking person we can find. With that being said, I am sure you know where you stand as far as attractiveness goes, go for a girl you think is within the same level as yourself. 

2. Read her body language. If you are on a date with a girl and shes playing with her hair or sitting with her legs uncrossed, chances are she has thought about having sex with you. 

3. Its all in the text messages, if she frequently texts with one word responses like LOL, haha, omg, whatever, you get the idea chances are she has zero interest in sleeping with you.

4. She talks about sex with you, opening up about sex is a touchy subject for most females, we usually do not discuss sex with guys unless we have thought about doing it with them.

5. Place your hand on her shoulder or casually touch her while having a conversation and see how she reacts to you. Obviously don’t go touching her boobs or ass, the shoulder is your best bet. If she does not look at you with a “what the hell are you doing” look its safe to say she is comfortable with you.

6. She mentions other guys around you, this is the easiest way to tell a guy you have zero interest in him or simply do not find him attractive without hurting his feelings. I usually pick a guy that looks the complete opposite of who I am talking with.

7. This is obvious, she sends flirty text messages to you.

8. If you have been hanging out with a girl for a while, everything is going well she is laughing, your having a good time it is safe to say you can kiss her. Personally, I experienced guys lean in and completely chicken out haha suckerrssss! I know that initial kiss is super awkward, and kind of nerve racking but if you feel it in your gut go for it, chances are she wants you to. 

9. Learn how to dress, look like you give a shit. Its sexy we like it when a guy matches his belt with his shoes and shirt it shows he cares. Throw away those jeans that you have been wearing for the past five years that are now torn, have holes in them and are faded because your not getting laid in them trust me.

10. Take care of your body, we really dont care about how big your biceps are or how ripped those abs are, what we do care about is that you put some effort into maintaining a healthy weight. Plus guys that work out are usually better in bed and have more energy,

11. You see a cute girl in a bar, how do you strike up a conversation with her? Well here is the deal if she is with a group of girls that is always a tough challenge because girls are like tigers, we are ready to tear apart any guy with think isnt good enough for our girls. The best way to approach her is to make eye contact with her if she ignores you dont even bother, if she looks back smiles, go over and say hi, simply ask how is your night going? Is this the first time your here? Than ask to buy her a drink, and just have a conversation. Talk about work, music, events that are happening in your city, news, movies etc!

I am not expert, however I do have a vagina I hope these tips help!!