Guys That Play the Field

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How old are you? If you’re past 23 years of age, and you continue to get played, then I apologize, but I don’t feel sorry for you :/. There are so many women out there that continue to fall for Mr. “I’m Just Gonna Bang You Until What I Want Comes Along”, and they fall for him time after time after time, then stay up all night crying and whining, because they think they got dumped. Wake up and smell the coffee, you were never in a relationship, so how the hell can you get dumped? If you’re hanging out with a guy and all you do is bang, THAT IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP!!! You have a friend with benefits, and if you cannot accept that then move on with your life, and find someone new. That guy is never going to be your boyfriend, you have more of a chance of farting rainbows, and eating fire than you ever will at getting that guy to be your boyfriend. It is the cold hearted truth.

Typically, guys that play the field target specific types of females, insecure and naive. They’re preying on the weak. I remember the first time I attracted a Mr.”I’m Just Gonna Bang You Until What I Want Comes Along”, I was 17. Let’s call this asshole Jeremy. He worked next door to me, and for some reason I thought he was super attractive (this was before I got contacts); my friends thought he was a butter face. He was a complete asshole to me, incredibly disrespectful and said some rude shit to me, and you know why he did that? I was insecure and allowed him to. I don’t attract Jeremy’s anymore, because I’m confident. Jeremy was nothing special, he wasn’t very intelligent, although he tried to make himself seem smarter than me, he didn’t hit the jackpot in the looks department, he wasn’t funny, and he was rude. I bet he works for a towing company now.

If you’re a female, and you are confident in yourself it scares these types of men away, because you come across as difficult, and they’re lazy, they want something easy.

If you have been the girl a guy just wants to bang until he finds what he wants on numerous occasions then you should know how to figure that out by now, and shouldn’t throw a bitch fit when he moves on to the girl he wants. If he ignores your texts, or texts back days later, it’s a clear indicator he doesn’t want a relationship with you. If he doesn’t talk to you about your passions, favorite music, family etc, and all he mentions is sex, he’s not interested in a relationship. Why is this so complicated?

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The Crazy Girl That Dropped 30k To Look Like Kim K

Claire Leeson, a British girl is making national headlines, because she dropped 30k to look like her idol, Kim K. Most people believe Claire is insecure, crazy and may need psychological help more than anything, and while I do agree she definitely needs therapy to deal with her insecurities, Kim Kardashian is just as insane. 

Kim Kardashian and her reps can deny this all they want, but let’s face the facts, she has an entourage of professional stylists, makeup artists and hair stylists making her look like Kim K. She also has a plastic surgeon she has paid thousands of dollars to achieve that flawless face. In a way I cannot blame Kim for being so vain, her looks are her money maker, and were her key to fame. As we all know, looks tend to fade. Her money maker will eventually be destroyed by time; she is not getting any younger. Plastic surgery and expensive facials will not keep her famous looks forever. I hope she can come to an understanding that looks are not everything, and perhaps she can let her fans know this as well. 

As for Claire, she feels confident when she gets Kimified, because she probably feels like she becomes her. She plays a character and that girl that was once bullied takes a hike for a while. Claire’s fantasy helps her escape her own reality, and we all cannot deny that we partake in activities that help us escape. If anything I feel sorry for this girl, and hope she learns to love Claire, and stops trying to gain approval by being a faux Kim Kardashian.

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Your FAT!

You know that three letter word people often get their panties in a bunch about? NO, I am NOT referring to sex. I am talking about fat. Women around the globe are constantly on a diet, because they look in the mirror and see a fat girl. Do not get me wrong, obesity is a growing epidemic and can perpetuate a number of health problems. The keyword there is health, and the majority of women are not diets for health purposes, their primary motivation is to look better.

This is where the problem arises. I think all women should remove the term FAT from their vocabulary. Never resort to labeling yourself such a repulsive term, because it will only fuel your insecurities. Instead face the problem, and come to terms with the fact that you are over weight and need to shed some pounds. You are still sexy and worthy of people’s respect. Nobody should discriminate against you, or make you feel inferior because of a number on a scale. 

Look in the mirror and pick out what you like about yourself. Then decide upon what you would like to change, and figure out a POSITIVE way to do it. Do not starve yourself, go on some bizarre, wacky, stupid ass diet or attempt to conquer a difficult exercise regime when you can barely do 15 minutes walking on the tread mill. 

You will never look like any other woman, EVER. You are one of a kind; there are no replicas. Isn’t that awesome? Why would you want to look like another woman, when you are amazing? You will never be perfect, because that just does not exist. 

You are already sexy, you only want to lose weight to improve your health, it is not all about appearance. Beauty fades. 

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Insecure People Finish LAST!

If you do not love yourself how the hell is anyone else supposed to love you? If you do not believe in your own ideas how the hell is anyone else supposed to? If you doubt your own beauty others will find you ugly. That last one is a bit exaggerated but you get the idea? Right?

Everyone in the world is insecure about something. Everyone. There are no exceptions. The people you see as “perfect” look in the mirror and see something they dislike about their own reflection. Intelligent people find themselves questioning their own minds, and the overachievers often believe their lives did not turn out according to their plan. We all have insecurities where as others are insecure. If you are insecure you finish last.

You think someone like Steve Jobs was insecure? He created a company from inside of his home. He quit college. He came from a working class family that could not afford to put him through college, and he was adopted. Jobs believed in himself, he was passionate about his work therefore others believed in him. Confidence sells a product long before it can sell itself. 

Lucille Ball was one of the first women to find success in comedy. She was also the first woman to own a production company. She had to create I Love Lucy, because in the 1950s networks believed America would never accept a biracial couple into their homes. Lucy said “okay fine”, I will make my own television show. I Love Lucy became the first syndicated show in American history. You think she suffered from insecurity? She may have doubted herself for a second but at the end of the day she knew she would succeed, and that is why she did.  

Lets talk about you. Me? Yeah, YOU! The one reading this blog..if you do not have self love nobody else will love you. Insecure women attract assholes, because they pry on their lack of self-esteem. A confident woman scares this type of male (or female), therefore they are less likely to date them. If you want a great significant other you must first find the greatness in yourself. If you want to become the best at your career you must believe you are the best. Insecure people finish last and will get run over by those that lack self doubt.

OMG I Am Officially A GLEEK!

I have to be honest here, before I could not get myself to sit and watch an episode of the FOX hit show Glee, because to me it looked like a bunch of drama kids that annoyed me in high school bopping around to Britney Spears songs, and sabotaging classic bands like Journey. The other night I decided to give the show a chance and watched two episodes on Netflix, I now understand the obsession teenagers have with this show. Ryan Murphy is a genius, the show tackles sensitive topics such as homosexuality, teen pregnancy, and bullying. It does this by entertaining you, rather than lecturing you, making you feel like you are in a Psychology course. 

The cast is also VERY diverse in terms of looks, race, and personality. There is a character you can relate to, for me its Santana, like me is rather sarcastic, snippy, however beneath that lays a heart of gold. The first episode I watched was the one in which they performed Born This Way, it was about loving yourself, and embracing your flaws, because our flaws are part of what makes us unique. In the beginning of the episode, Rachel is knocked in the face by Finn causing her to suffer a broken nose, the doctor tells her she should consider getting a nose job, if she wants to succeed as an actress. The members of the Glee club tell her that is a stupid idea, after she shows them a photograph of what she would look like with a better nose, they explain to her how it does not even look like her! At the end of the episode the cast sings Born This Way, wearing t-shirts with a word or phrase with the one thing they are embarrassed about. I love the message this episode is conveying, love yourself, have self love and embrace what is different about yourself, even if it is deemed “ugly” according to societies standards. 

I think Ryan Murphy is a very talented individual, and is sending wonderful messages to our youth. Remember you were born this way baby!

 

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A Girls Guide To Guys On Getting Laid

I think MOST  straight men would agree that sometimes they have difficulties with the opposite sex, that is getting the opposite sex to have sex with them. Wow so many sexes in one terrible sentence. Below are some tips on how to get “laid”.

1. I do not care about what Hollywood tries to shove down our throats, there is a league zone and people typically date & fuck those that are within their attractiveness range. You will rarely see a 5 with a 10, it just doesnt work that way, we are genetically designed to mate with the best looking person we can find. With that being said, I am sure you know where you stand as far as attractiveness goes, go for a girl you think is within the same level as yourself. 

2. Read her body language. If you are on a date with a girl and shes playing with her hair or sitting with her legs uncrossed, chances are she has thought about having sex with you. 

3. Its all in the text messages, if she frequently texts with one word responses like LOL, haha, omg, whatever, you get the idea chances are she has zero interest in sleeping with you.

4. She talks about sex with you, opening up about sex is a touchy subject for most females, we usually do not discuss sex with guys unless we have thought about doing it with them.

5. Place your hand on her shoulder or casually touch her while having a conversation and see how she reacts to you. Obviously don’t go touching her boobs or ass, the shoulder is your best bet. If she does not look at you with a “what the hell are you doing” look its safe to say she is comfortable with you.

6. She mentions other guys around you, this is the easiest way to tell a guy you have zero interest in him or simply do not find him attractive without hurting his feelings. I usually pick a guy that looks the complete opposite of who I am talking with.

7. This is obvious, she sends flirty text messages to you.

8. If you have been hanging out with a girl for a while, everything is going well she is laughing, your having a good time it is safe to say you can kiss her. Personally, I experienced guys lean in and completely chicken out haha suckerrssss! I know that initial kiss is super awkward, and kind of nerve racking but if you feel it in your gut go for it, chances are she wants you to. 

9. Learn how to dress, look like you give a shit. Its sexy we like it when a guy matches his belt with his shoes and shirt it shows he cares. Throw away those jeans that you have been wearing for the past five years that are now torn, have holes in them and are faded because your not getting laid in them trust me.

10. Take care of your body, we really dont care about how big your biceps are or how ripped those abs are, what we do care about is that you put some effort into maintaining a healthy weight. Plus guys that work out are usually better in bed and have more energy,

11. You see a cute girl in a bar, how do you strike up a conversation with her? Well here is the deal if she is with a group of girls that is always a tough challenge because girls are like tigers, we are ready to tear apart any guy with think isnt good enough for our girls. The best way to approach her is to make eye contact with her if she ignores you dont even bother, if she looks back smiles, go over and say hi, simply ask how is your night going? Is this the first time your here? Than ask to buy her a drink, and just have a conversation. Talk about work, music, events that are happening in your city, news, movies etc!

I am not expert, however I do have a vagina I hope these tips help!!

Mean Girls & Mean Boys

Growing up I was often victimized by the mean girls, and boys at school. I was awkward, incredibly bright, and without a doubt an ugly duckling. Throughout my adolescence I experienced peers calling me everything from ugly, to scrutinizing the size of my nose, and only wanting to befriend me, because I was intelligent. I used to be extremely insecure, I used to despise my own reflection, and wanted the popular kids to like me. I remember I let guys say some messed up shit to me when I was a teenager, because I did not like myself! Ugh. As an adult, I would tell these losers off so fast it would make their head spin! I can honestly say, I LOVE MYSELF. It took a while, but you know what? I am the pick of the litter, and so are most women, they just need to learn to see it with their own two eyes. The majority of mean girls and boys do not go anywhere in life. They get fat, and live mediocre lives. You know Tom Hanks was a weirdo in high school? You know Stephen Speilberg was made fun of in high school because he was odd, and creative? Kesha was poked fun at because she was “fat”, and when she told her peers I am going to be a rock star, they laughed. Kurt Cobain was also bullied because he was so thin. Brilliant people are usually punched down a couple of times, because the mean girls and boys are too dumb to comprehend their minds. If you are currently a target for these dip shits, remember one thing, those bullies are targeting you because there is something you have that they dont. Don’t let them get to you, and if someone is putting you down give it right back to them, you watch how fast they shut up once the tables are turned.