For the most part, the majority of heterosexual men are often baffled, and confused by the opposite gender known as women. They cannot seem to grasp the concept of what “women” want, and I think trying to figure this out only sets them up for failure. What do I mean by this? The keyword there is “women”, and it is too generic, because what woman wants another could live without, we are all designed differently therefore we have different wants, and this is an important attribute to making the world go around.
I will describe to you what I want, and the characteristics the man I will end up with in the end MUST have, no exceptions. I need an intelligent man who is opinionated and supports his arguments with valid facts. Someone who is determined to be successful in his career, a hard worker, a creative thinker and will keep me on my toes. A man that respects me and other women, and words like “slut” are not in his vocabulary. His religious beliefs cannot define who he is. He has to enjoy taking care of his body and eating well. And last but not least he must be loyal.
Now there are women out there that would disagree with me, and that is okay. There are women that do not care about a man’s weight or do not mind it if their man cheats, because they financially support them. Some women would refer to me as “shallow”, or a bitch and I honestly do not care. These characteristics are incredibly important to me, and I do not feel as if I am asking for much. I have a college degree, a job, work out 4 times a week to remain a healthy weight and have aspirations of owning an online business. I believe I am quite the catch and I do not care if that makes me seem conceded or full of myself. Confidence is sexy and powerful go get some!
Trying to figure out the female mind, and picking it apart will not get men anywhere, because not all women are the same. Not all women are attracted to the same type of men, and we all come from different backgrounds, and plenty of psychological studies have supported the claim that we are destined to be captivated by men who are like our fathers. If your father cheated on your mother, you are more likely to be drawn to men that are players, because that is what you were exposed to growing up. It is a tough cycle to break, because we are significantly influenced by our surroundings growing up.
If you are a heterosexual male trying to learn about what women want, stop now. Instead learn about what the WOMAN you are dating, or would like to date wants. What are her life goals? Does she have high career goals? Does she have the desire to be a mother? What is her sense of style in terms of clothing? Does she want to get married? What does she prefer sexually?
The last one is a biggie, because in general (at least in the USA) women are still encouraged to be hush, hush about their sexuality, where as it is still okay for men to be boisterous about it. Sex is a vital part of a relationship, and it can destroy it if the two lovers are not communicating about what they desire. Again, not all women have the same sexual desires, so figure out what YOUR woman wants, who gives a shit about what WOMEN want.
If you are interested in a particular woman, her hobbies, and her job are two important keys to determining her wants and desires. If she is in shape, chances are she wants a man that is also fit. If she comes from a middle class home chances are she wants a man with a decent job. If she is very religious more than likely she does not want to be in a relationship with an atheist.
Those are my thoughts for the day, what are yours? Comments are always appreciated!