Life is Short. Have an Affair.

That’s the tag line to one of the internet’s most infamous “dating” websites. I learned about this website over the weekend after discovering the owner, Noel Biderman on Dr. Phil. This man has earned himself a fortune by helping married people have affairs. I think cheating is terrible, because obviously it is dishonest, sneaky and immoral, but it is even the worse when someone cheats on the person they vowed to love forever. I believe that if an individual is unhappily married they should get a divorce like half of my family members. 

Most people would agree with me that cheating is wrong, however other people might be like you have no idea what it is like to be married once there are children, and a house involved shit gets complicated. This is the reason I believe unhappy married people get the urge to just cheat. It is much easier to cheat on the person you are married to than divorce them.

Noel’s website provides readers with the top cities that people have affairs in, and Los Angeles was the winner (are you surprises I’m not) but Phoenix earned itself the third slot. I was a bit shocked when  I learned that married women cheat almost as badly as men! We frequently see women as the victims of infidelity, but very rarely do they exposes as the one committing it. I am curious to interview Noel strictly to discuss infidelity. I would love to learn during what stage of a marriage do people begin cheating, and the traits of a serial cheater!

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  1. I have to agree with you – life gets complicated and as adults we may not make the best choices in life. A few years ago I found myself on the back side of adultery. Not an easy reality to swallow — although the partner in crime was not from the site you mentioned but a buddy from the neighbourhood – never the less my wife turned to someone else and the truth of the status my marriage stung.

    Needless to say, if nothing else, life has been a learning experience since. What makes relationships tick, how do couples find themselves turning to others? My wife described it as a way to balance the stresses in life … how to “Fill the bucket” – – – maybe that is nothing I can ever understand. For others, it may be the conquest, or simply filling a missing void. I am positive everyone has their reasons, why turning to someone else is easier then facing the realities of what the issues may be. However, I have to agree — the bounds of family, and children is strong — heck, that is the main reason why I fought for almost two years to save my relationship.

    We change as people, our partners change — it takes a strong person to recognize those changes, to build, to adapt, to survive, but what if that other half cant or will not change? I am far from an advocate for adultery, does that mean, I don’t try to understand the issue? After all — you need to understand your adversary.

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      1. To my fault, I have always tried to see both sides to every story — even if it is not to my advantage. Do I agree in people’s choices, heck no … But Try to understand, is a different issue. For me — I will fight and sacrifice for what I believe is the honourable choice … The right choice …. Maybe others don’t have that same fight…..

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