I repeatedly ask myself this question, because I see it to often. Intelligent, attractive women with their shit together getting themselves into relationships with men that will probably never amount to anything. I do not understand why these women try so hard to remain in an unhealthy situation. I am independent by nature, I do not need a boyfriend to make me feel confident, complete, beautiful, happy or for any other reason. I am quite the catch, therefore my standards for dating are incredibly high and I am rather snobbish at times- I do not give a shit. The pick of the litter does not settle for a runt. So why do these other women settle? They have so much going for them; why don’t they aim higher.
One reason why some women settle is because of the obvious reason any shrink will tell you- they lack high self esteem. They think the dipshit they are dating is the only man they can ever get and fear being alone. I have women that stay in relationships with a guy that belittles them about their weight, calling them “fat”, tearing them apart like they would an enemy; is that how you treat someone you love? If I was dating a guy and he called me fat, I would kick his ass to the curb so fast his head would spin. You should be in a relationship with someone that lifts you up, not brings you down.
The second reason is they are too kind. You should be a genuine, loving person however this type of attitude can attract manipulative men, that feed off your kindness like a parasite. You are not a mother and you are not there to put him together; he is not a puzzle. If you are with a guy that continuously makes bad decisions, chances are he will for the rest of life. He is immature and clearly cannot grasp the concept of “I fucked up this time”, I learned and I will use my mistake to make myself grow.
They are intimidated by their equal or someone they believe is superior to them. I am not going to sugarcoat the truth. I do not care what Hollywood says, wake up and smell the coffee- THERE IS A LEAGUE ZONE! People like dating/ falling in love with someone who is like themselves. If a woman is an attorney, attractive and has her own home, why the hell would she date a guy that makes 24k working as a Subway manager? The reality is she probably would not even consider dating him, unless he was in med school or working towards something better. I am not trying to put anyone down, I am just explaining that we like to be with someone who has similar traits as ourselves. I truly believe that some women date losers, because they fear getting challenged by their equal. Someone that is not as successful, intelligent or attractive will make them feel safe.
They are serial daters. Like a serial killer that targets specific victims, serial daters want to be in a relationship with the same type of men over and over and over and over!! I was a serial dater, but for an odd reason; I knew if I continuously dated the same kind of guy it would never work out. I like being in control and I can never fall in love with any of the guys I dated. Women that date losers get used to being with the same kind of guy, and do not know how to venture out to find something new.
What do you think?